Clairbear
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Any posts by Iddy?
Hi everyone 
I just received a message from Iddy's daughter, Baby Girl, and I was wonder if anyone knew of any of Iddy's (the previous CL on EAS who passed away...it's been five years...whoa) posts by her that may have been carried over to this board.
Babygirl wanted to read some stuff by her Mom and was disappointed to find ivillage gone. I think she's missing her mom.
So if anyone kept any posts by Iddy in a personal file (doesn't have to be a personal response...just something general she wrote that perhaps spoke to you and you printed it out) or you remember a post you brought over from EAS and placed in our healing library here, please let me know.
Hope you are all doing well.
Clairbear
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3/22/2017, 4:40 pm
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ang410
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Re: Any posts by Iddy?
I have not logged on here for a long time (and don't even remember my old user id). Looks like the forum is not very active. But if you read this, here is something Iddy said that really helped me a LOT:
There is no closure in affairs. We go into them thinking this is a real relationship with mutual honesty and trust, and this is the farthest you can get from the truth. Affairs are based on lies, deceit, more lies, fancy words said in the heat of the moment, promises made for getting what we want, and their dynamics change faster than Michigan's weather. There are no rules, no growth, and no guaranteed tomorrows. They all have an expiration date stamped on them, and they will end when and if either AP decides it's time; with or without explanation. This is how it is. Once you can accept that this is what you signed up for, the sooner you are going to get past this self betrayal.
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1/15/2021, 1:22 pm
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RatherBeMe
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Re: Any posts by Iddy?
I still check in ever so often to see if anyone is still alive and having problems.
I think this something she posted, it sounds like her. I saw this in a file not opened very often and thought about her. She passed so suddenly.
1. No more chats and avoid eye contact.
2. Act professional, happy and indifferent. I will fake it till I make it !
3. This is the fight of my life - be prepared for horrible emotions.
4. He is just my paycheck now.
5. Just leave decisively after work - with or without saying goodbye.
6. I will not allow myself to be bothered when I see holidays marked off
in his calendar and I will not question him about it. I will also not
allow myself to be bothered whether he is happy or pissed off or just ignoring me (Not my problem).
7. No more snooping around for personal information on him.
8. If I feel emotional, I will read this card or go out for a walk.
9. Remember the horror of DD.
10. I will NOT question him or discuss about our relationship again.
11. Call someone I care about just to say Hi each day.
12. Suck it up and LET IT GO !
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