RatherBeMe
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Our affair stories
Interesting about all of the stories that are posted, in our new section, I can relate to all of them.
Interesting that I don't find any of them strange/weird at all.
The biggest difference I notice between me and you, I never thought of my affair as being a FRIENDSHIP. I must have jumped over that part of it. That could be the biggest reason that I felt it was doomed from the very beginning.
Oh, we were close, but never that close. It isn't that I didn't want that, we just never got to know each other that well.
I think friendship is a real important part of being in a relationship. Two people trusting each other.It might be that with friendship, you develop trust. I never had that. No trust.
There is supposed to be honor among thieves. I guess we never got that far.
--- We only miss what could have been.
I know I don't miss what really was.
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1/25/2015, 4:37 pm
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Re: Our affair stories
RBM - I just saw this comment and it is interesting. I think friendship is actually the biggest reason why it's been so darn hard for me to get over this. Friendship was at the core. Kind of good to have someone else kind of confirm what I have been thinking. You make a lot of sense and your posts really help me to stay level headed. I'm sure others feel the same. Thanks.
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Thank you for the kind words.
I have been out a long time, and think I see things a bit more realistic than I did before. As the fog leaves from the affair, you see things differently, and clearer.
I think it all comes down to my being able to quit trying to make something work that wasn't meant to work. Over and over, I tried to put a square peg into a round hole.
I know today I dodged a bullet. Enough said.
That doesn't mean that I don't have fond memories. It doesn't mean anything other than it was what it was. Calling it anything other than what it was, is pure fantasy.
I'm not doing that fantasy again.
--- We only miss what could have been.
I know I don't miss what really was.
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3/11/2015, 7:45 pm
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